A chore app for couples, without the scoreboard.
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Use an app that shows every recurring job in one place, names who owns it, and reminds that person. List the invisible work too, like restocking, booking appointments and noticing the trash is full.
Agree on how often each job really needs doing, then stop counting. An app that keeps score turns a chore list into a ledger of who is ahead.
We Both puts every chore on one shared list with a named owner, repeats and reminders, and leaves out points and streaks on purpose.
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Start with the invisible work
Most arguments about chores are not about dishes. They are about the jobs one person notices and the other does not: running out of toilet paper, the dentist appointment, the gift for his mother, the form due Friday. Nobody sees these on a chore chart because nobody wrote them down.
Do this once, together, with a timer for twenty minutes: each of you lists every job you did last week without being asked. Compare the lists. The gaps are where the resentment lives.
Agree on how often, in numbers
Many couples disagree about frequency without knowing it. One person thinks the bathroom needs cleaning weekly, the other thinks monthly. Neither is wrong, but only one of them is doing it.
- For each job, say a frequency out loud: daily, twice a week, every two weeks, first Saturday of the month.
- If you disagree, meet in the middle for a month and look again.
- Put it in the app as a repeat, so it comes back without anyone having to remember it.
- Give each job one owner. When circumstances change, hand the job over and say so.
No keeping score
Points and streaks work for some people, and a few couples enjoy them. For most, a number beside each name leads to “I did more than you this week”, which is not a conversation that ends well.
We Both shows what is due, who it belongs to, and when. There is no tally and no leaderboard. Some chores can also be undated “whenever” jobs: they sit on the list without a due date, so they never turn overdue, and you can plan them onto a day when you have time.
How to divide household chores fairly →Chore apps couples consider
Prices are from each app’s own pages, read on October 11, 2026.
| App | Price | Good for | Watch for |
|---|---|---|---|
| Tody | Free for one person. Duo plan (2 people, with household sync) $25 a year, 30-day free trial | A cleaning schedule that adapts to what is due | Sharing the plan with a partner is a paid tier |
| Sweepy | App Store: $3.99 a month or $19.99 a year, 3-day trial | People who like a game feel, with coins and a leaderboard | Tasks carry points. One reviewer wrote that it “shames you to the point where opening the app is incredibly disheartening” |
| Cozi | Free. Gold is $39 a year and is ad-free | Family calendar and shared to-do lists | It is a family organizer, not a dedicated chore scheduler |
| We Both | Chores, calendar, list, bills and budget free. Premium covers the whole house | Chores beside the rest of the household, with no scoring | iPhone only. No auto-rotation. No points |
Make it a weekly habit, not a project
- Once a week, spend ten minutes looking at what is coming up, and move or hand over anything that does not fit.
- Reminders go to the person who owns the chore, so the other person is not the one nagging.
- Put chores on the shared calendar so you can see a busy night before you promise to do the laundry.
- Review the whole list every few months. Jobs that are never done should be redefined or dropped.
Questions people ask
How do couples split chores fairly?
Agree on the full list, including invisible work, then give each job one owner and divide by effort and by preference, not by minutes. Review it every few months.
Do we both need to pay for We Both?
No. Chores are free. If you want Premium, one subscription covers the whole house, and the other person never pays.
Is We Both a couples app?
No. It is a household app for anyone you live with, and it works well for two people. You can also use it alone, or add roommates and family.
Does We Both have a chore points or reward system?
No. There are no points, streaks or leaderboards. If you want rewards, that part stays between the two of you.
Get the whole house on it.
Download it free, then invite everyone you live with. They see the same list, the same calendar and the same money.
Or scan with your iPhone cameraFacts about other apps were checked on October 11, 2026. Prices and features change, so check before you switch.